Although the CDC has previously shared insights on the average number of sexual partners, this time we’re diving into how often people engage in sexual activity throughout the year.
Every relationship is distinct, but knowing how you compare to the average might be intriguing, wouldn’t it?
Fortunately, experts in the field of sexology have pinpointed how often people typically engage in intimate activities annually.
In 2022, a TikTok user named Daniel Schaal, also known as @thatschaalfolks, gained attention by sharing this average number, surprising many with the prospect of keeping up with the statistics.
In a social media post, Daniel stated, “The average person has sex 54 times a year or so, looks like the next few days are gonna be pretty crazy for me.”
The revelation stirred conversations, with many taking to the comments section to share their thoughts.
One user quipped, “I did it 54 times between January and February so I could relax from March to December.”
Another added, “Well someone here must be doing it 54 extra times to make up for me.”
Yet another commenter noted, “Well I’ll certainly be below average on yet another thing.”
A fourth user humorously remarked, “I’m 45 times behind lol.”
Research published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior in 2017 indicated that adults, on average, have sex approximately once a week.
Findings showed this frequency had decreased by about nine times a year compared to studies from the 1990s.
Dr. Sanam Hafeez, a psychological expert from New York City, emphasizes the importance of sexual intimacy for the health of relationships.
In a discussion with NBC News, Dr. Hafeez stated: “Closeness and connection is a human need. When in a long-term relationship it’s important to reconnect through sex. The brain chemicals released during sex further enhance bonding.”
While some couples might choose to focus on other aspects of their relationship, there are simple strategies if you wish to exceed the average of 54 intimate encounters annually.
If you’re dissatisfied with the frequency of your sexual interactions, addressing your concerns openly with your partner can be effective.
Discussing your desire for a more fulfilling sex life can lead to a collaborative plan to enhance it.
This might involve skipping a morning workout for some intimate time or dedicating an evening each week to a romantic date.
If these efforts don’t yield the desired results, consulting a sex therapist may help address underlying issues.
Professional counselors can assist you and your partner in identifying and resolving intimacy challenges.
Sexuality expert Phil Stutz suggests “creating space for your Shadow” to enhance intimacy with your partner.
The concept of the ‘Shadow,’ introduced by Carl Jung, pertains to the unconscious mind and encompasses traits that are often repressed due to societal norms or personal discomfort.
This might include feelings of embarrassment regarding sex, which can hinder intimacy.
Stutz advises, “If you want to have a good sex life, no matter how long you’ve been together, you need to nurture and create a space for the Shadow; you need to let yourself be vulnerable and bring it into the bedroom with your partner.”
He adds, “Ironically, even though you’re embarrassed of it, the Shadow is the part of you that can have passionate sex, get close and be intimate with someone.”
